How to Battle The Imposter Syndrome and Start Taking Action On The Things That Are Really Important To You
I can relate to this guest post by Pear Tree Pond as much as anyone. When I first started my blog I wasn’t sure how or where to start and it felt silly to even try.
Although my blogging journey is far from perfect I am proud of how far I have come! So I hope you enjoy this post and realize you are not alone!
Starting a mom blog is not an easy thing to do, right? And I’m not talking about all the tech stuff, cause I know with the help of YouTube and Google, you can figure most of these things out in a matter of minutes (or hours…).
I’m talking about the things that Google CAN’T directly help you with. The doubt. The fear. The feeling of not being good enough. The thought of having nothing to contribute or share.
Those are the thoughts and feelings that keep a majority of aspiring mom bloggers (including myself!) stuck for a long time. On the one hand, we want nothing more than to move forward and make this work for us, but then we look at our slow progress and beat ourselves up over it. We feel vulnerable and unworthy – we feel like an imposter… Who are we to tell anyone anything??
If that’s how you are feeling right now, I want you to take a step back and breathe. You are definitively not the only one going through this.
Chin up, buttercup, there are ways to get you out of that slump! ☺ And you don’t even need an expensive shrink – all you need is to shift your focus.
Sure, that’s easier said than done, but here are a few thoughts that help me every time I find myself in that trap:
- “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle, or your middle to someone else’s end.” – Tim Hiller
What you see when you look at the beautiful blogs of the successful mom bloggers you admire, is NOT how they started. Everyone sucks in the beginning. If you keep learning and implementing, you’ll suck less and less until you’re actually really good and someone else might look up to you in admiration.
I know that’s really difficult for perfectionistic people like myself who are embarrassed by publishing anything that’s less than perfect. But it’s the only way can grow.
Be ok to suck for a while!
- You don’t have to be an expert to teach.
It’s such a common misconception that only experts can teach anything valuable.
All you need is to be one step further along the road and know a little bit more than the people you wanna teach.
Remember the movie “Catch me if you can” with Leonardo DiCaprio? All he did to successfully impersonate a substitute teacher was to read one chapter ahead.
I know, I know, it’s just a movie. But still: You might not be a world champion cyclist and can still teach your kids how to ride a bike, right?
I’m NOT saying talk about things you don’t know anything about, don’t get me wrong. I’m saying, start learning and teach what you’ve learned. This brings us elegantly to the next point:
- You don’t have to pretend to be an expert – just document your journey to becoming one.
What a huge relief, right?! People might actually learn much more from you documenting your progress than they will from just seeing your perfect end result.
Makes total sense, doesn’t it? If you knew what successful people did to become successful in the first place – what worked and what didn’t – it would be so much easier to avoid mistakes and get to the desired end result faster.
“Tell the story of the mountain you climbed. Your words could become a page in someone else’s survival guide.” -Morgan Harper Nichols
Hope those tips will help you fight the imposter syndrome and make you feel more comfortable working on your mom blog. ☺ You got this, girl!
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All the best,
The Number One Course for Success with Affiliate Marketing
One of the most popular ways to make money from blogging is with affiliate marketing. I remember when I first learned about affiliate marketing about ten years ago.
The concept made sense but there was just so much to blogging that it all became very overwhelming and confusing.
Now, I have had to relearn about affiliate marketing and the newest ways to use it to make money with blogging. It is interesting to relearn it all.
As I go through and read more about it I laugh thinking that I knew all of this so long ago but I just didn’t quite know how to get traffic to my blog or how to implement these strategies.
Fast forward to now and Pinterest is a blogger’s best friend and secret weapon. Only it is no secret at all but yet so many bloggers don’t realize it’s full potential. More on all that later.
For now, I want to talk to you more about affiliate marketing and what I have recently learned and relearned!
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I finally caved and took Michelle’s affiliate marketing course Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing. She is very successful with affiliate marketing and attributes $50,000 of her $100,000+ monthly blog income to affiliate marketing.
Yes, I will say that again, she makes $100,000+ on her blog PER MONTH and $50,000+ of that is from affiliate marketing.
I was nervous at first to take that step and make that commitment to buy her course. I was nervous that it would all be review and that I wouldn’t learn anything new or what I would learn wouldn’t be worth the price of the course.
I’ll go ahead and stop right there and let you know that I learned a bunch and the course is well worth the price tag!
What is Affiliate Marketing?
Let’s quickly answer this question before we get too much further so everyone knows exactly what affiliate marketing is.
My definition: Getting a commission for selling someone else’s product.
That is my quick definition, in a nutshell, to help you grasp what we are talking about. Here is Google’s definition: a marketing arrangement by which an online retailer pays a commission to an external website for traffic or sales generated from its referrals.
One of the things that I learned in Michelle’s course is that some companies will pay you for leads and not necessarily sales.
I did not know that. I thought it was only for sales! She said that some companies will pay you for signups/leads you send them. That’s pretty cool!
How to be successful with Affiliate Marketing.
There are two main things that you need to have to be successful with affiliate marketing and that is affiliate links and traffic.
The more links you have and the more exposure you can get to those links the better!
However, it isn’t quite that simple.
There are many factors that go into having success with affiliate marketing. So many in fact that I didn’t realize it until taking Michelle’s course.
You see I am a professional learner. I love to take courses, learn all the details and then wonder why it doesn’t work. It’s because I didn’t work.
I don’t mind working hard but I do mind getting uncomfortable and most of the time you have to get uncomfortable to be successful.
That is why I love blogging so much. You don’t have to stand in front of a bunch of people and give a speech. That is unless you want to. You can speak through the words you type and don’t have to make videos or do lives unless you want.
If you have big goals and dreams and want to be in front of the camera that is wonderful! That isn’t me though. I don’t like the spotlight on me or even shinning next to me.
So, being the professional learner that I am, I have researched and learned almost all there is to blog years ago and I tried my hand at it but I didn’t have any luck. I got discouraged and quit.
I will admit that I have done that with other things as well.
But my heart has always been drawn back to blogging. This time though I pushed through and now I am trucking right along!
I tell you all of this to let you know that I have researched, read, and watched so many trainings all about blogging and how to make money blogging it is crazy!
So again, I worry when I do purchase a course that I may have already learned all I can and it would all be an overview.
However, Michelle is a legend in the affiliate marketing world so I figured she would have the best of the best knowledge and I was right!
What is in the course?
This thing is jam-packed with amazing content and I can tell you I learned so much and barely anything was an overview for me.
I feel like after taking the course, the steps I felt like I needed to take next on my blog were justified and many more steps added.
I wasn’t sure how many affiliate links to add to a blog post, where to put the links, where to advertise the post and links, or where not to advertise the links.
I had my theory but to have an expert verify it made me feel much better in my decision.
Here is an outline of what all is offered in Michelle’s course Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing:
- Access to a private Facebook Group
- Explanation of Affiliate Marketing and how it works
- Workbooks and worksheets throughout the whole course
- How to find and apply for affiliate programs
- Advice from a special guest that shares how to ensure you are accepted into affiliate programs
- How to properly and legally disclose your affiliate links on all platforms
- How to get your readers to convert
- Deep linking and click through rate
- Strategies and ways to promote your affiliate links
- How to keep your strategy going strong
- Things NOT TO DO
- Special guest that shares how to ensure you are accepted into affiliate programs
- Special guest talks about Pinterest and how to drive traffic to your blog
- Special guest talks about Facebook Ads
- Special guest talks about editing.
- How to become an affiliate for her course
That is a quick run through of everything in the course but it truly is packed full of amazing content and information that will leave you feeling like you have everything you need to be successful with affiliate marketing.
Why you should do affiliate marketing
You might be thinking “Well, that all sounds great but I don’t think affiliate marketing is for me.” Affiliate Marketing is more than just making up a silly blog post around a product and trying to sell it to your readers.
If you have a blog then you know that your true passion is sharing your word, your knowledge, your advice, and anything you can to help your readers.
That’s why we blog. We want to help share our experiences and knowledge with the world, with our readers, and with our friends!
Yes, it is a bonus if we make money.
Or that may be your only goal is to make money. If it is then it’s going to be harder for you. If your goal is to find what’s best for your readers and help them then you are much more likely to make money from your blog.
But if you are looking out for what is best for your readers, you are going to have some sort of product that has helped you that you want to share with your readers. It is just natural.
Like this post for example! Am I an affiliate for this course? Yes. But that is because I found extreme value in this course and I wanted to share it with you!
I left this course with an action plan and a plan of attack.
It showed me new ways (from an expert) that are proven to work. Some of these ways I had thought of but completely forgot about. Others were brand new ideas that I hadn’t ever heard or thought of!
So, just like when you go to the movies and you thoroughly enjoyed a movie, you are going to share that with your friends. You are going to tell others to go see it.
This way when you are sharing what you love with your readers on your blog you are also providing a way to make an income for yourself.
Wouldn’t it be awesome if that happened all the time in the real world when you told your friends and family about something you loved!
Is this course right for you?
If you are looking to implement affiliate marketing on your blog then yes, this course is definitely for you. If you already implement affiliate marketing but you are struggling to make any money then yes, this course is for you.
If you haven’t started a blog but you want to and you plan to do affiliate marketing on your blog then yes, I would still say this course is for you!
I truly feel that this is valuable information to learn from the beginning of your blogging career.
Starting a blog is simple but does require time and effort. It isn’t easy but again it isn’t hard either. There are plenty of guides out there to help you start a blog.
I offer a free 30-Day Challenge Workbook to Start a Blog that can help you walk through the steps to get going!
It doesn’t have to take 30-Days but it is broken down into daily tasks to make it not so overwhelming. If you are like me and you like to dive in then you can just keep pushing forward and get it going in less time!
Again, I think this course would be great knowledge from the very beginning so you can start implementing her tips on writing, editing, and linking your blog posts from the very beginning!
Then once you have your posts full of valuable content and affiliate links you can watch the video in the course from the owners of Create and Go (that have 3-4 million monthly views on Pinterest!) and she will teach you how to be successful on Pinterest to get traffic to those links!
This is how I got over 7,000 page views to my new blog using Pinterest!
To conclude, I think it is pretty clear that I strongly recommend Michelle’s course Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing.
I took the course with already plenty of knowledge of affiliate marketing and came out blown away at the value of the course.
It is packed full of amazing information that you have to have to succeed with affiliate marketing. Plus, I couldn’t believe all the bonuses and extra content provided by so many other experts!
I learned more about Pinterest and tips to help me gain more traffic, I learned amazing insights into Facebook Ads, the best tips to ensure I am accepted into any affiliate program, and then the best tips to make sure my blog posts are edited correctly!
Great course, great value, I highly recommend it!
Have you taken Michelle’s course Making Sense of Affiliate Marketing?
What did you think of it?
Have you ever thought about starting a blog? I know I toyed the idea around for far too long before finally deciding to commit. It was always something that I wanted to do but wasn’t sure if blogging was right for me.
How do you start a blog? How do you write posts? How do you get traffic to your blog?
There were so many questions I didn’t know the answers to. Shoot, I didn’t know if I even had enough time to learn how to blog so how would I have enough time to actually blog?
A quick search and you will find more than enough information about blogs. It can become very overwhelming. But before you dive too deep into how to blog let’s first see if blogging is right for you!
How To Tell If Blogging Is Right For You
There is a lot to learn about blogging. It definitely doesn’t happen overnight. There are some who do it faster than others but we all can agree it takes a lot of time for most. It takes time to build up a following and if you’re blogging for an income, then it takes time to build that as well.
Ask yourself the following questions…
Do you like helping people? Do you enjoy being on a computer? Do you mind putting in many hours before you see any return? Do you want to make money online? Do you like to be apart of a community? Do you want to work from home? Do you want a flexible schedule? Do you have something to share with the world? Do you have a passion you want to share or teach others? Do you want uncapped income potential? Do you enjoy learning?
I know that was a bunch of questions but they are all related to blogging. Blogging first started as a creative outlet and has turned in to much more. Some people still use their blogs for their own personal online journals but I would say that most have monetized their blogs. Your blog could be about teaching your readers a unique skill and then make money a number of different ways from your following.
The Right Person For Blogging
Blogging can be for anyone but it takes a special person to succeed at blogging. For example, my husband is very knowledgeable about so many things. He could definitely have a blog and share his knowledge. The only problem is he is more of a hands-on person, an outdoor person, and not so much a computer person. He works more hours than most and it is just in his blood to be up early working circles around others.
Me, on the other hand, I have always wanted to be home. I don’t mind being home all day every day. Now, being a blogger doesn’t mean you have to be home all day. You could go to the library, coffee shop, park, where have you! I do better getting my work done inside and then going out when I am done.
Either way, it does take a special kind of person to be able to blog. Just like it takes a special kind of person to be a nurse or a child care provider. You just have to really ask yourself those questions above and answer them honestly so you don’t dive into something you aren’t fit for and then quit.
I’m speaking from experience on that! I am cursed with always seeing the brighter side of things…it’s a good curse most of the time…but sometimes I get myself into things I end up hating because I didn’t think out the negatives fully.
As you have probably figured out that blogging does take a lot of time. I do believe that it isn’t as long as it use to be before you can become successful but it still takes longer than most peoples attention spans. We live in an instant gratification world. We expect things to happen right away for us and when we don’t get instant results we quit. Another bad habit we all seem to have is that as soon as the “fun” wears off we quit too.
Blogging takes time but it doesn’t have to be hours a day. It can be 30 minutes or more consistently a day and you will see results! It is just like when you decide to go on a diet and you eat one salad and you’re not skinny yet?! And you think “Well that didn’t work why bother to keep trying?!” But if you did try consistently over time you will see results! Again speaking from experience on that one too!
Another important factor in deciding if blogging is right for you is you need to enjoy helping or teaching others. People follow those they are learning from or entertained by. Some of us have that certain personality that attracts others to follow our lives and journeys but most people are out there looking to learn a skill or trade. I started following blogs that taught me how to blog! I wanted to know about them and wanted to learn more so I followed successful bloggers that taught others how to blog. Then I realized that was my passion so I wanted to help simplify what I had learned and teach it to other bloggers, especially moms like me!
Don’t worry if you aren’t an expert in something. I thought I had to be a professional before I could start teaching others. I would spend so much time trying to figure out my niche and what I was good at and experienced in enough to teach others but I wasn’t an expert in anything! Or at least not anything I knew I could teach on over and over again.
Then I realized I didn’t have to be an expert. I also was later told that being an expert can actually hurt your teaching skills because you are harder to relate to for the newer people trying to learn. Being 6 months into learning something makes you that much more knowledgeable than the new people but you can still relate to them because you yourself are still pretty much a newbie as well!
Why I Love Blogging
I wasn’t sure if I was right for blogging but I have found that I really enjoy it! I really enjoy helping and teaching others. Especially other mommies! I feel like I could talk and teach about blogging forever. I enjoy being on a computer and not fighting traffic every day. I enjoy getting my own coffee (or spark) instead of getting my boss coffee. I love being able to get my daughter off the bus every day. I love being able to see sunlight! And not just through the windows of my office! There are so many perks about working from home. There are many times it can get lonely but that’s when you have to remember why it is amazing! And then get out of the house more and talk to actual people!
I hope this has helped you decide if you are right for blogging!
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Until next time!